Different psyches are not broken in the same way or by the same things – they are organized around different primary stabilizers, and when those stabilizers fail under sufficient pressure, the failure looks different and demands different responses. This essay maps five primary stabilizer types, how neoliberal feudalism is degrading each of them, and why the solutions that work for one constitutional type are metabolically toxic for another.
Welcome back. In my Formal Logic of the Crucifixion of Opposites post, I discussed how the concept of God as totality could not be identified with by limited beings, and how identification with it would lead to either ego inflation, total collapse, or paralysis, and therefore the solution was to identify one’s unique energy signature and God-given life path, to put up blinders and to focus on it. I wrote:
P22. If totality cannot be inhabited, and if the privatio boni [redemptive] load-bearing structure has been recognized as metaphysically false, the individual faces the base-layer problem directly: the crucifixion of opposites must still be borne somewhere. It does not disappear because its previous container has been dissolved.
P23. The structural solution is the rebirth of the gods within the psyche – the differentiation of totality’s energy currents into personalized functional positions that can be related to without identification. The specific symbolic vocabulary used for this differentiation – gods, planetary archetypes, psychological complexes, or other frameworks – is a heuristic interface rather than a metaphysical claim. What matters structurally is that the energy currents are differentiated and related to without identification rather than projected outward onto external authorities or discharged through acting-out. If MBTI, Big Five, or another mapping system provides an accurate somatic guide to one’s specific energy currents, it serves the same structural function (though typically with less symbolic depth than mythic or archetypal vocabularies, which carry greater load-bearing capacity for extended periods of psychic pressure). The map that produces accurate self-knowledge and keeps one on one’s constitutionally specific path is the operative criterion, not the symbolic vocabulary used.
What I tried to do in this series and elsewhere was to break our energetic makeups into four constituent parts:
- An energy signature typology, which relates to where and how energy is directed and flows throughout our body;
- How these energy signatures interact with our physical makeup in the form of humors (sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic, melancholic), which determine how cheap or costly energy flow in certain directions is;
- as referenced in footnotes in that series and also in my post Individuation Under Abraxas, the specific stabilizers that people use to absorb the crucifixion of opposites. I had written: “Broadly speaking, human psyches tend to regulate around one of a few primary stabilizers: (1) attachment and belonging, (2) esteem and status, (3) meaning and narrative, (4) control and agency, (5) coherence and truth-consistency. Most people have several, but one dominates….” Stabilizers result from numerous genetic and environmental factors and include but is not limited to trauma adaptation, whether one is neurotypical or not, an epistemic temperament, and/or a spiritual orientation; and
- The God image acts as the cybernetic regulator of the stabilizer system, in the Ashby sense, which determines how that protection is interpreted and maintained.
The framework effectively offers a four-pronged differentiation:
- Movement: Energy signatures describe how psychic force moves. Where does the energy go? (e.g., Introverted Intuition vs. Extroverted Sensing);
- Metabolism: humors describe how expensive different energetic operations are. What is the cost of moving that energy? (e.g., a sanguine person finds social interaction metabolically “cheap”; a melancholic finds it “expensive”);
- Regulation: stabilizers describe what the psyche ultimately protects. Why do we move the energy? What is the homeostatic goal? (the stabilizers);
- Orientation: God-images describe the highest-order regulatory architecture governing the stabilizers themselves. What reality is the psyche orienting toward? What range of contradiction, suffering, uncertainty, and ambiguity can be metabolized before destabilization occurs? (e.g., privatio boni, Abraxas, historical progress, enlightenment, cosmic indifference).

For example, two people may both appear introverted: one because social interaction is metabolically expensive, another because coherence-seeking overrides social reward, another because attachment trauma makes closeness threatening, another because their symbolic/intellectual life is intrinsically rewarding. Two individuals may possess the same primary stabilizer while inhabiting radically different psychological worlds because they operate under different God images. An attachment-regulated Christian experiences abandonment differently than an attachment-regulated materialist. A coherence-regulated Abraxian metabolizes contradiction differently than a coherence-regulated believer in privatio boni. The stabilizer specifies the regulatory need; the God image specifies the highest-order architecture within which that need is organized, justified, and maintained.
Most personality systems collapse movement, metabolism, regulation and orientation into one variable, which I think is incorrect. MBTI collapses cognition, orientation, and energy movement, Big Five collapses behavioral tendencies and emotional regulation, enneagram collapses defense structure and desire, and even Jung often blurred symbolic orientation with psychological function.
Perhaps this approach is too unwieldy, and take from it as much or as little as you like. Looking at my energy signature phenomenologically (which, along with recursive political/cultural predictions, is largely how I attempt to determine what is true today, in an era when institutional trust has utterly collapsed) I can take this breakdown and state:
- My energy signature is primarily two rough polarities, a severe “Saturnian” exterior with a “Dionysian” (chained but wild) interior with “Hermes” serves as mediator in the form of writing output;
- My humors are primarily melancholic with choleric overlays and low sanguine1;
- My primary stabilizer is coherence. As I wrote, “This means that when reality makes sense, I am stable even if it is bleak; when reality does not make sense, I destabilize even if life is comfortable. Emotional reassurance does not compensate for structural falsity in my worldview, belonging does not override contradiction, and hope that contradicts lived data increases my anxiety instead of relieving it…For those with my psychic profile, contradiction feels like suffocation….A non-negotiable requirement is that my god-image may not contradict lived phenomenological data; this is why the privatio boni did not merely feel “wrong” to me – it felt unlivable”; and
- My God image is a non-redemptive Abraxas, the horrifying unity of good and evil, totality.
Putting these together, I have wild Dionysian energies chained by external Saturn severity, overlaying a melancholic core with choleric overlays which makes it metabolically expensive to process energy through action instead of introspection, leading to Hermes writing as output, all with the objective of trying to achieve coherence – to understand the world so that it makes sense, underneath an Abraxian non-redemptive God image.
This is a specific combination, and it doesn’t mean my combination is better or worse than anyone else’s – it is a specific and narrow energy pattern which is geared toward intensity, interiority, understanding, and writing, and is very inefficient and poor in many areas. What I mean by this is that my somatic profile is specific and unique to me, with specific strengths and weaknesses, opportunities and challenges, and the same is true for everyone else with their own. A person isn’t “better” for having a certain energy signature; they just have a different metabolic profile and a different regulatory need. This creates a framework for incommensurability rather than superiority. What this means in effect is that my path is not your path, and your path is not anyone else’s path, and what is salvation for one person is poison for another.
This is what I mean when I emphasize that a God image of Abraxas is (so far) good for my psyche – it solves the problem of somatically feeling as a crushing weight the endless contradictions in this realm, the injustice, the depravity, in a way that coheres for me, but this is a metabolically expensive solution – to hold the crucifixion of opposites internally until the transcendent function provides a provisional answer is very expensive, because it means I am spending my limited, finite energy looking internally instead of going out and making money or having adventures or being extroverted or whatever. This is why, if one adopts a non-redemptive God image, if one really grapples with this problem, it eventually becomes clear (if one doesn’t devolve into ego inflation or collapse) that this perspective is not one of superiority vs. those who have not undergone this specific path, but rather that a non-redemptive God image solves a very specific constitutional problem based on threshold conditions, i.e. no one will adopt a new God image – which is a very difficult, scary, uncertain and metabolically expensive undertaking – unless one has crossed a threshold where the pain of remaining where one is at exceeds the cost and uncertainty and fear of making that leap to a different God image, after every attempt to reinforce or stabilize the existing God image has failed. Everyone has such a threshold, but where that threshold is depends on one’s specific metabolic and psychological makeup. My contention is that more and more people will cross that threshold as neoliberal feudalism proceeds, making the vast majority of people materially poor, and (for those astrologically inclined) as the age continues its transition into Aquarius with the image of the water bearer representing individuals being forced to carry their own psychic weight. Threshold crossing occurs when a stabilizer can no longer be adequately regulated by its existing God-image architecture.
Generally speaking, I think that those with a coherence primary stabilizer are more likely to cross that threshold before those of other primary stabilizers, mostly because of how intensely incoherent the world is today. There is so much contradiction, so much uncertainty, such a decline of societal expectations in hope and progress and meaning, a total devolution into secular material atomized nihilism, that those who are primarily stabilized by coherence are already under high internal stress loads. But that doesn’t mean that other stabilizers are immune to the effects of these societal changes.
Let me briefly work through each of the stabilizers: (1) attachment and belonging, (2) esteem and status, (3) meaning and narrative, (4) control and agency, (5) coherence and truth-consistency.
- Attachment and Belonging
The attachment-regulated psyche organizes reality around relational connection. Safety is relational, meaning is relational, the self exists in and through its bonds to others – family, community, beloved, tribe. What must remain intact is the sense of being held, known, and connected.
The characteristic strength of those who are attachment-regulated is warmth, loyalty, and the capacity to sustain community across time. The attachment-regulated person can tolerate enormous external chaos such as political collapse, economic hardship, or philosophical incoherence as long as the relational field holds. The characteristic vulnerability is that relational rupture produces destabilization proportional to the depth of the bond. Abandonment, betrayal, death of the beloved are not ordinary losses to attachment-regulated psyches, they are regulatory catastrophes. No argument can substitute for the lost connection, no insight can metabolize the grief. I have an acquaintance who lost his mother a decade ago, and he still posts regular and glowingly about her on Instagram – this is a small example of an attachment-regulated psyche.
The god-image most compatible with this stabilizer provides cosmic belonging, a personal God who knows and loves the individual, a divine family, a sense of being held by something that will not let go. The privatio boni works beautifully here. The all-good Father guarantees that the ultimate relationship cannot be broken. But the material substrate of attachment-regulation – stable communities, extended families, religious congregations, neighborhoods with multigenerational continuity, institutions worth belonging to – has been systematically dismantled by the same neoliberal feudal process that produces material deprivation. Economic precarity forces geographic mobility; people follow work, and following work severs the multigenerational rooting that genuine community requires. The digital substitution for community such as social media, parasocial relationships, and online belonging provides a simulacrum that activates the same social circuits without providing the metabolic equivalent. Virtual belonging is to genuine community what a photograph of food is to eating. The system registers the category without metabolizing the substance.
For an attachment-regulated person, the Abraxian position does not primarily provide structural intelligibility, it provides something more counterintuitive: it removes the demand for cosmic belonging as a condition of psychic function. If totality contains all good and all evil without allegiance, without preference – if Abraxas is genuinely indifferent rather than personally loving – then the absence of relational confirmation from the cosmos stops being an accusation. The universe is not failing to love you; it does not have the capacity to love or fail to love in any personal sense. But this is a cold comfort and it is not available to many attachment-regulated constitutions. Some cannot metabolize an indifferent cosmos because the regulatory architecture requires personal relation as its foundation and Abraxas provides no personal relation, and for those constitutions the Abraxian position is metabolically toxic. What becomes available instead may be something closer to the differentiated gods: specific psychic energies that can be related to without being personal in the Christian sense but without being indifferent in the Abraxian sense. The Jungian anima, the specific archetype that claims a person, the God energy heuristics identified above are relational structures that survive the collapse of the personal God without requiring full adoption of Abraxian indifference.
- Esteem and Status
The esteem-regulated psyche organizes reality around standing, recognition, and a viable position in the social field. The self is defined through its significance in the eyes of others through achievement, reputation, or the specific form of significance that transgression and rebellion can provide. What must remain intact is the sense of being someone whose existence registers as meaningful in the collective field. The characteristic strength is the capacity to sustain high-performance output when recognition is available, to maintain social intelligence, and to generate compelling self-presentation. Esteem-regulated people build, lead, and perform. The characteristic vulnerability is that status loss produces destabilization that no private reassurance can address. Public humiliation, professional failure, and social exile are felt as existential erasures, not ordinary setbacks. Being ignored is worse than being hated, because hatred still registers as recognition.
The god-image most compatible with this stabilizer provides cosmic significance: election, a divine mission, a place in a meaningful hierarchy where virtue is ultimately recognized. The privatio boni works because it promises that alignment with the Good will be honored, that the moral order ultimately vindicates those who deserve vindication. But neoliberal feudalism produces a specific distribution of recognition: it concentrates status at the apex while systematically degrading the status infrastructure that previously allowed mid-tier actors to maintain viable social positions. Professions lose their prestige as credentials are devalued. Middle-class markers of status become increasingly inaccessible. Social media provides an endless performance of significance – follower counts, engagement metrics – that activates the esteem-seeking circuit without satisfying its regulatory function, serving as the form without the substance.
The Abraxian position for esteem-regulated constitutions offers an uncomfortable reframing: if totality contains all recognition and all invisibility without remainder, if cosmic indifference means that significance is not cosmically guaranteed, then the drive for recognition stops being oriented toward an eventual accounting that will vindicate the effort. What becomes available instead is a position I have inhabited: the work has intrinsic value regardless of whether it registers. The creative instant in which something timeless is produced, whether or not ten thousand people admire it, a comment made by Picasso as related by Ernst Junger.2 This removes the cosmic guarantee of recognition without removing the value of the work. But this is also cold comfort and it is not available to all esteem-regulated constitutions.
- Meaning and Narrative
The meaning-regulated psyche organizes reality around story, purpose, and the sense that existence participates in something larger than the individual life. The self is defined through its role in a narrative arc as protagonist, witness, contributor, or inheritor of something that matters. What must remain intact is the sense that the sequence of events constitutes a story with direction, that suffering serves a purpose, that the individual life is embedded in a larger significance. The characteristic strength is the capacity to sustain enormous deprivation as long as the narrative frame holds. The characteristic vulnerability is narrative collapse – the loss of the story that made suffering meaningful, the revelation that the arc doesn’t bend the way the narrative required. The god-image most compatible with this stabilizer provides cosmic story: creation, fall, redemption. The privatio boni is structurally optimal here because it guarantees that the story ends well. The secular-progressive narrative is its modern mutation: the arc of history bending toward justice, the story of civilization advancing.
This narrative has been the dominant load-bearing structure for meaning-regulated psyches across the ideological spectrum for two centuries, and it is failing on its own terms; not because it has been philosophically refuted but because the material evidence of its failure has accumulated beyond the narrative’s capacity to metabolize it without increasingly obvious special pleading. Inequality increases despite decades of progressive policy, the institutions built to produce justice increasingly serve elite capture, the technology that was supposed to liberate produces the most sophisticated surveillance and control apparatus in history. The meaning-regulated person who has invested their regulatory architecture in the progressive narrative must either perform increasingly implausible special pleading or begin the slow recognition that the narrative frame itself is compromised.
The path from meaning-regulation threshold toward Abraxas is in some ways the most direct of the four non-coherence paths, because the meaning-regulated person is already constitutionally oriented toward narrative and symbolic architecture. The move is not from symbolism to structure, as it is for coherence-regulation, but from redemptive narrative to tragic narrative, from a story that promises resolution to a story that acknowledges permanent crucifixion as the condition rather than the problem. The tragic vision by Homer or Ecclesiastes has historically been the most accessible secular alternative to redemptive religion for meaning-regulated constitutions. It retains narrative form while refusing the redemptive arc.
- Control and Agency
The control-regulated psyche organizes reality around the capacity to act effectively. The self is defined through its efficacy – the ability to intervene, redirect, build, or prevent. What must remain intact is the sense that agency is real and that its exercise makes a difference.
The characteristic strength is sustained action under adverse conditions, strategic thinking when others have collapsed into affect, and the specific form of courage that comes from being oriented toward what can be done. The characteristic vulnerability is the encounter with genuine helplessness – situations where nothing that can be done makes a difference, where the system is too large for effective intervention. The failure signature is rage first, and then something more dangerous: the substitution of symbolic agency for real agency.
This is perhaps the stabilizer most directly targeted by the architecture currently being assembled. The panopticon, the algorithmic mediation of social life, the CBDC infrastructure, the AI surveillance apparatus are all systems that reduce the effective agency of ordinary actors while concentrating it at the apex. The control-regulated person does not primarily need community or recognition or structural coherence, they need to act effectively in the world, and the world is being redesigned to make effective action by non-apex actors increasingly impossible.
The Abraxian position for control-regulated constitutions offers the most counterintuitive reframe of all: if totality contains both agency and its absence without remainder, if cosmic indifference means there is no ultimate guarantee that right action produces right outcomes (reminding me of the great Chinese “maybe” story as recounted by Alan Watts), then the absence of efficacy stops being a temporary obstacle to be overcome by greater effort and becomes a structural feature of the condition itself. This removes the implicit promise that sufficient agency will eventually restore control. What becomes available is precise discrimination between what is and what is not within the domain of genuine agency (i.e. the serenity prayer), combined with full commitment to what is within that domain and full acceptance of what is not.
- Coherence and Truth-Consistency
The coherence-regulated psyche organizes reality around structural integrity, logical consistency, and the correspondence between model and world. The self is defined through its capacity to hold a non-contradictory orientation, to see reality clearly, without special pleading. What must remain intact is the sense that the highest-order framework contains no unresolvable contradictions that require active suppression.
The characteristic strength is immunity to motivated reasoning, pattern recognition across domains, and the courage to prioritize accuracy over comfort. The coherence-regulated person can tolerate material deprivation, isolation, and bleakness as long as the structural frame holds. The characteristic vulnerability is that contradiction produces destabilization that no amount of emotional reassurance, relational warmth, status, or narrative meaning can compensate for. False coherence feels like suffocation.
The god-image most compatible with this stabilizer provides structural intelligibility: a metaphysics without internal fracture. The privatio boni fails here not because it is emotionally unsatisfying but because it is structurally unsound. Evil is not a privation to anyone who has witnessed its positive, generative power. The coherence-regulated psyche experiences this as a regulatory catastrophe – the body registers the contradiction before the mind finishes the argument.
The Abraxian position offers structural relief rather than comfort. If God is totality containing all good and all evil without remainder, the contradiction disappears. Observed injustice and depravity are not exceptions to be explained away but the content of the divine, metabolized without special pleading. The cost is high – holding the crucifixion of opposites internally requires metabolically expensive presence – but for the coherence-regulated psyche, non-falsity is the precondition for all other goods. Without it, no love, recognition, meaning, or agency can stabilize the system. With it, even suffering becomes potentially bearable, because suffering is no longer compounded by a god-image that claims love while permitting atrocity.

Stabilizer Mismatch
The stabilizer model explains why standard solutions work for some people but systematically fail others and why those people are often blamed for the failure.
Most therapeutic modalities are designed implicitly for specific stabilizer types. Cognitive behavioral therapy targets the stories people tell about events, restructuring catastrophizing narratives, challenging irrational beliefs. For meaning-regulated psyches, this can be genuinely effective because restructuring the narrative restores regulatory function. But for other types it often does not work. For coherence-regulated psyches, it often fails because the problem is not the narrative content but the structural integrity of the highest-order orientation, which CBT doesn’t reach. For attachment-regulated psyches, CBT can feel cold and relationally insufficient, the therapeutic relationship itself is often more important than the cognitive restructuring. For control-regulated psyches, CBT can feel passive – talking about thoughts doesn’t feel like doing something. The modality works for some constitutions and not others, and the failure is typically attributed to the patient rather than to the mismatch.
Attachment-based therapies are highly effective for attachment-regulated psyches and often puzzling or frustrating for coherence-regulated ones, who experience the warmth of the therapeutic relationship as pleasant but regulatorily beside the point. The same coherence-regulated patient may be diagnosed as intellectualizing or avoiding affect. Meanwhile, control-regulated patients may find attachment-based work aimless – they want tools, not attunement. Esteem-regulated patients may find it useful only insofar as the therapist’s validation substitutes for the recognition they need, which creates dependency rather than resolution.
The practical implication is a prior diagnostic question that current frameworks don’t ask: what is this person’s primary stabilizer, what has destabilized it, and what would restore its function? A person presenting with depression who is attachment-regulated needs something different from a person with identical symptom severity who is coherence-regulated, control-regulated, or esteem-regulated. Treating them with the same protocol because they share a diagnostic category is the therapeutic equivalent of prescribing the same medication to everyone with chest pain regardless of whether the cause is cardiac, musculoskeletal, or anxiety-related.
The same dynamic operates in institutions. Schools are designed around social belonging (the classroom community, peer relationships, the teacher as attachment figure) and narrative meaning (grades as progress, curriculum as arc, graduation as completion). These are effective for attachment and meaning-regulated students. For coherence-regulated students who need structural integrity rather than social belonging, the gap between the institutional narrative and the actual experience can be destabilizing (and this explains why I have always hated and been bored by formal schooling). For control-regulated students who need efficacy and real-world impact, the endless preparatory exercises can feel like busywork. For esteem-regulated students, the grading system works only if they are winning; once they fall behind, the same system that motivated them becomes a source of shame. Each stabilizer type experiences the same institution differently, and institutional design treats one type’s needs as universal.
Religious communities are designed almost entirely around attachment and meaning stabilization (belonging to the community of faith, participation in a narrative of salvation). The instruction to have faith in the face of doubt works well for attachment-regulated psyches (trust the relationship with God) and meaning-regulated psyches (trust the arc of the story). It fails coherence-regulated psyches who cannot suppress what the body registers as structurally contradictory and it also fails control-regulated psyches who need efficacy, not trust. The same community that stabilizes some members destabilizes others, and the destabilized are typically seen as having a personal crisis of faith rather than a constitutional mismatch.
At the interpersonal level, stabilizer mismatch is a structural source of relational friction. The attachment-regulated partner who responds to distress with increased closeness seeking is doing what their regulatory system requires, the coherence-regulated partner who withdraws into structural analysis is doing what theirs requires, the control-regulated partner who wants to fix the problem is doing what theirs requires, the meaning-regulated partner who wants to understand what the conflict means for the story of the relationship is doing what theirs requires. Each is genuinely trying to repair the connection through the mechanism that works for them, but each experiences the other’s repair attempt as aggravating the problem because each is solving for their own stabilizer rather than the other’s. This cannot be resolved by better communication alone, because the communication itself is routed through different regulatory architectures.3
The most practically important effect of the stabilizer model at the individual level is the conversion of experienced failure into constitutional information. The person who has repeatedly failed to be stabilized by therapeutic interventions, institutional participation, or relational intimacy has typically been told that the failure reflects a deficit in them. The stabilizer model reframes this: the interventions failed because they were designed for different regulatory architectures. The failure is not a sign that something is wrong with the person but that the person has been applying solutions designed for other stabilizer types to a problem their own type presents. This reframing does not solve the problem, but it removes the secondary suffering of believing oneself to be uniquely broken. The problem becomes structural rather than personal. That shift is small in description and large in consequence.
The same mismatch can occur at the level of God-images. A religious architecture optimized for attachment-regulated psyches may destabilize coherence-regulated ones. A God-image that provides profound structural relief for coherence-regulated constitutions may feel cold, alien, or psychologically hostile to attachment-regulated constitutions. This helps explain why theological disagreement is often experienced somatically rather than intellectually; the disagreement is not really over doctrine (although people consciously think that) but over competing regulatory architectures attempting to stabilize different constitutional needs.
Conclusion
The threshold model, then, is not a single path with different speeds. It is multiple paths with different phenomenologies, different trigger conditions, and different endpoints, some of which are full Abraxian adoption and some of which are post-privatio boni positions that stop short of Abraxas but have moved beyond the available redemptive alternatives. What they share is the structural mechanism: the primary stabilizer is no longer being adequately metabolized by the available regulatory architecture, and the threshold has been crossed where the cost of remaining inside the failing architecture exceeds the cost and uncertainty of reorganization.
The framework is not predicting mass adoption of Abraxas. Most psyches that cross their threshold will reach for compensatory intensification first – doubling down on the available redemptive alternatives, joining high-demand communities, attaching to totalistic political movements – and only a subset will find their way to any post-privatio boni position through the long and metabolically expensive process of genuine reorganization. But the number crossing their threshold will increase as neoliberal feudalism continues its advance, and the number finding that the available redemptive alternatives cannot metabolize their specific threshold condition will increase alongside it.
What the framework offers those people is not a solution but a legibility – a name for what is happening that does not require pretending the privatio boni is still working when the body has already registered that it isn’t. The crucifixion of opposites does not end, the path does not resolve, but understanding the structure of what is happening potentially makes it possible to bear without the additional suffering of confusion. That is not redemption, it is not salvation, it is the cold comfort of coherence, and for those who need it, it may be enough.
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I had written: “My melancholic core relates to depth processing, high sensitivity to contradiction, long integration cycles, and symbolic metabolism, while my choleric overlay (conditional) relates to sharp articulation and structural clarity, and carries with it a capacity for decisive action after integration. I have low sanguine; this mean I have low tolerance for noise, low reward from novelty, and high cost from social performance. I am highly efficient in narrow, aligned channels. When the pressure is real (not artificial or performative), the problem is structural (not tactical or social), the frame allows integration rather than compliance, and the output is symbolic, analytic, or synthetic (writing, theory-building, pattern recognition) my system converts energy with very low loss. In those states I don’t thrash, I don’t loop emotionally, I don’t require much external regulation, and my output is dense relative to input.” There are substantial negatives associated with this configuration too, which I discussed in Part 2 of that series.
“As for posthumous literary glory, I don’t set excessive store by it. I’m skeptical, for I’ve observed that such glory pales even in an author’s lifetime. He then leads the life of a pauvre poete oublie [a poor forgotten poet]. Or else he behaves very sensibly, like Rimbaud, who after producing an exceptional literary oeuvre in his youth, devoted himself to commerce in Africa; that was more important in his eyes. And sub specie aeternitatis, the day will come when even Homer will be totally unknown. Glory is like the blazing tale of a comet, which still sparkles for a while in the wake of the work. You may then wonder what the goal of writing is assuming it has a goal. It is the creative instant itself, in which something timeless is produced, something that cannot be wiped out. The universe has affirmed itself in the individual, and that must suffice, whether or not anyone else notices it. In 1942, when I visited Picasso on Rue des Grands-Augustins, he said to me: “Look, this painting, which I have just completed, is going to have a certain effect; but this effect would be exactly the same, metaphysically speaking, if I wrapped the painting up in paper and cosigned it to a corner. It would be exactly the same thing as if ten thousand people had admired it.” – p. 56, The Details of Time
This may sound superficially like the Five Love Languages framework, but the difference is one of depth. Love languages describe how people prefer to receive affection – words, touch, service, time, gifts. The stabilizer model describes what the psyche is organized around at the level of regulatory architecture. The attachment-regulated partner doesn’t just prefer closeness; closeness is what prevents their system from destabilizing. The coherence-regulated partner doesn’t just prefer clarity; structural honesty is what prevents their system from suffocating. The repair mechanisms aren’t preferences that could be swapped for another love language with sufficient goodwill. They are constitutional requirements, and when they are not met, the result is not disappointment but regulatory crisis.












